Great Relationships

From 1986 – 2008 I was a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice. This is the first in a series of columns about what I learned during that adventure.

    • No one ever gets married with the intention of having a marriage that does not work. Yet so many people find themselves in that very position.
    • Based on 22 years of being closely involved with hundreds of marriages on a daily basis, I can tell you that there are 4 types of marriage:
      • The Cell Mate Marriage – The worst possible situation to be in. Been there, done that one myself.
      • The Room Mate Marriage – Unfortunately the most common marriage. Folks settle for “the way it is” for the rest of their lives.
      • The Life Mate Marriage – Second most common, these folks still really like each other, the spark is just not there all the time.
      • The Soul Mate Marriage – Rarest of the four types. And so worth waiting for, as that is what I’m blessed with now.
    • Want to know the number one way to screw up your marriage and complicate your life more that you ever thought possible? The one move you can make to accomplish all that plus even more misery is to have an affair. While I don’t speak from personal experience, I do speak from the experience of helping hundreds of couples pick up the pieces of that unique human disaster.
  • One of the best things you can do to keep a great marriage going is to keep doing most if not all of the great and loving things you did while you were dating. I know it’s a radical notion, but I’m here to tell you, it works!