How to Be Successful With Women

As the first of nine children, it’s fair to say that having a sister within a year of me has provided 37 years of ongoing insight and experience into interacting with women. More »

Great Relationships

From 1986 – 2008 I was a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice. This is the first in a series of columns about what I learned during that adventure. No More »

All The Secrets About Relationships

A happy relationship is one of the best things life can offer; it is difficult to maintain lasting happiness. Unsolved problems can ruin your life; good feelings will be only a memory. More »

My Family Rules About Relationships

Family and Cultural Scripts When you were born into your family you were presented with your ‘script’ or pre’script’ion for life. Just like an actor on stage works from a script, so do you. More »

Life Phrases About Relationships

I pump energy into my relationships. The great killer of affiliations and kinships is to take them for granted. I liken this to the energy that holds the universe together. That energy More »

My Family Rules About Relationships

In part one of this article I was talking about how families affect the decisions we make about our lives through ‘scripting’. Let me clarify this further with an ex example. My father grew up in a very large family during a difficult time in history. He was born into a time in Europe just after the First World War and was the second youngest of seven children. Needless to say he would have had to have made his presence known to have any of his needs met and this probably included having to speak very loudly to have his voice heard over all the others.

I also know that his father was a very successful businessman prior to the First World War and that it was very difficult for him to continue to provide for his family afterwards. I can only imagine how frustrating it must have been for a man at that time attempting to raise seven children and struggling with the aftermath of war. So what sort of environment must have this been for my father to grow up in? Not only was he the sixth born but he was born into a family